Posted by: drjamm | January 29, 2010

Joy #2 Fifty-one and fabulous

To keep the heart unwrinkled, to be hopeful, kindly, cheerful, reverent – that is to triumph over old age. – Thomas Bailey Aldrich

Wednesday, Jan 13, 2010: Today I am 51 years old. Aaaah, no longer 50 and having a secret existential crises. The worst part of being 50 was dreading being 50. Fifty was actually a fabulous year: I was in my best health yet; I treasured my role as a mother, felt confident in my professional work, and I had a year of HUGE creativity. Now, If only I had enough hours in the day to devote to all my new creative inspirations…

Why did I buy into all that turning-50 cultural dread (even though I tried to pretend I was immune to that social stigma)? Now that I am 51, I can just get on with being myself: being productive, lazy,  polished, “just learning;” being silly when I want to be, comforting to others, nurturing to my family, romantic with my husband and — dare I say it — finding the time to spoil myself rotten with lots of contemplation, writing, and, oh yes, singing my lungs out every chance I get. Aaah, 51 is fabulous!

Today I was blessed by birthday text messages, phone calls, emails, –more flowers — and a dear friend and colleague took me out for lunch.  Finally, we got to TALK for a change and not just focus on work! My 51st birthday was rich, delicious, and full of Heart. I feel so loved by so many people.

So, if you are nearing that 50th milestone, I would urge you to skip the “fearful of fifty” angst and go straight to your own Fifty is Fabulous celebration. I can personally testify that this age is the best of my life so far. If you can just ignore the “bad press” out there, I hope the same will be true for you. Amen, sisters and brothers!

*******       bright heart singing                          credits and links             *******

Photo credit: Photo by jamm at

Poem credit: I found the opening quote by Thomas Bailey Aldrich

bright heart singing, copyright 2010 – jamm. Creative commons attribution, non-commercial sharing only (translation: feel free to quote me in context or use this entry but please always credit me for my work, thanks.)


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